Potty training.

Let her cry it out. She should sleep In her own room. You can put on a noise maker or music while you sleep so you don’t hear her. It will take about 2-3 weeks for her but it’s the only way. You have to be disciplined yourself and it will be hard at first but don’t budge and it will get easier for you and also her in time. Trust the process and be strong :-)

@Chrissy so I have her crib in my room as of right now a few feet away from my bed. Are you saying I should move her crib to another room completely?

Cry it out isn't the only method of sleep training. If you are ready to move her to a different room, add a mattress to the floor of the other room , and do a fading technique of being in the room for a bit while she is there and maybe even sleep there and sleep in that room in slowly decreasing amounts. At one, you can move her to another room, but nothing says you absolutely have to. My son is still in our room. We do not plan to have him move rooms until we have moved to our next place... Which we don't even have yet. Heck, my husband was in a crib until he was 2.5 or 3... When he got moved to a shared room with his older brother , taking the lower bunk

Hey Sara, I wouldn’t advise you take Chrissy’s advice being she’s a Ftm that’s still pregnant. It’s easier to assume the cry it out method automatically works when you’re not wearing the shoes. Plus I personally think that’s an awful way to train a child. This is the time where full dependence is actually okay, I don’t seem to understand why babies are forced to assume independence so quickly. Your daughters cries is because she’s scared and needs mama’s comfort. I know it can be overwhelming sometimes cause we catch ourselves missing and craving old times where we control our time but this is the labour of love we signed up for being parents. In due time her transition to her own room will be much easier for her and you also. Please give it time, her cues will tell you when she’s ready.

Everyone told me to quit exclusively breastfeeding at 6 months cause my son can now supplement with purees and tried to prepare me for how hard weaning will be. I didn’t listen cause I knew he just wasn’t ready. At 11.5months he suddenly stopped accepting the boob any longer and guess what I did not experience even a second of difficulty with weaning and that transition happened seamlessly. I would never have been able to deny him wanting milk and I’m choosing to force him to stop because he needs to learn to eat independently. it’s my opinion, and ultimately finding what works best for your family will be the best way. ❤️

@Alexandra im still breastfeeding 😒 I want to be done. Especially because I feel like that’s why she’s waking up so frequently and she’s hardly actually nursing when she wakes up throughout the night. She just uses me as a comfort thing/pacifier but refuses to take an actual pacifier. And fake busting is the only thing that’ll get her back down sometimes. If I try to do anything else she freaks tf out and throws the worst temper tantrums or even worse, fully wakes up.

@Alexandra and I know. I’m not ready for her to be in another room. My FTM paranoia is still very much there and I just don’t feel safe having her in another room yet. I did speak to her pediatrician and he’s the one that recommended sleep training again and honestly I didn’t want to do it because I just think it’s too harsh but at the same time as a SAHM, I’m the only parent waking up her her every hour when she wakes up and it takes about 40 minutes on average to put her back to bed and she doesn’t nap any better throughout the day and now that she’s transitioning into the toddler phase, she’s soooo high energy and I just can’t keep up lately. I don’t really have much help throughout the week so running around after her all day and hardly sleeping at night…still a year later is becoming more than I can handle.

Damn so sorry. Sounds like my son but I promise it gets better. He’s 13months now. And after he stopped breastfeeding, he started sleeping through the night. But still sleeps in our room.

@Elizabeth I don’t think I’m ready for her to be in another room honestly. Do you know of any similar methods I can use to sleep train her with her crib still in my room and if it’ll work?

@Alexandra I think I’m going to try and quit breastfeeding then and if there’s still no improvement, I think I’m going to have to unfortunately sleep train some sort of way. I already went through a couple rounds of it awhile back and it hurt my heart and I ended up giving in because of that and again, being the only parent with her all day, by day 5 with no improvement, I just was too tired. My daughter is also 13 months old and the other night she woke up literally every 20 minutes the entire night and that’s when I decided I’ve had it. Something’s got to give.

I certainly understand cause I went through it first hand. I sleep trained him in our bedroom with his crib next to our bed, he was a bit different than the 7pm-7am bed time babies. An easier schedule for him and myself was a 10pm-10am or sometimes till noon. I prefer he goes down late to have a bit more of morning time for myself while he’s still sleeping plus it makes the day go by a lot quicker. We go on a walk around 7/8 then when we get back he’s already alot tired and I give him a bath then feed him a big meal before bed. He sleeps off on me for like 2 mins before I transfer him to the crib. I noticed if he sleeps on me longer before I transfer, he will wake. So immediately he falls asleep I transfer him. Sometimes he may wake a few times at night but also figured quickly getting him to pat him back to sleep before his eyes shine bright gets him back down in less than 5mins. So keeping him close to take action is what makes it easier.

@Alexandra that’s kind of what we’ve been doing. I had her on a 7-7 schedule at first but it just wasn’t working and I can’t wake up that early. I got her on a 9-9 schedule rn because there are night that she just won’t go down for hours and in case that happens, I don’t want it to be 1am. I usually take her on a walk at around 7 then feed her a big meal and play a little while it digests. Then a bath and last feed and then I kind of just lay in bed with her and she usually runs around the room or rolls around the bed for awhile until she finally passes out and I wait 10 minutes for her to be asleep deep enough and then put her in the crib but most nights, she’s up within 20 minutes of me leaving the room. It’s just so defeating.

Welll… I’d love if it were a 9-9 but by the time she fall asleep it’s 9:30-10 pm and then after a long night of constantly waking up, she’s up at 6-7am 😂

She’s just a fomo baby, she loves contact and your presence. soon this stage will be over, but I know it’s so much and it’s okay to feel defeated or frustration sometimes. You’re only human. Is her bed in your room? I honestly relate to you so much simply because only when you’ve experienced it will you truly understand when you say I’ve tried everything. That’s why I figured, meeting my baby at the point of his own need vs mine started helping the transitions get easier. Not all babies are the same so it will be a lot of trial and errors to find what works. I equally thought toddlers are easier than babies but boy do I miss when I can put you down in a spot and not worried you’re trying to spider man up the stairs or making series of messes that makes the day so much harder. Then top it off with being extremely clingy lol and you can’t even go pee by yourself. It’s hard.

@Alexandra yes her crib is by my side of the bed just 2 feet away and fr. I’ve tried everything. Ive tried adjusting her bedtimes, routines, feeding habits, wearing her out, reading, baths, singing, patting her back and offering comfort, sleepy herbal drops in her humidifier and in her bath, sleepy time shampoo and lotions and balms, dr teals melatonin bath salt, sleepy time herbal sprays. I even tried the mommy bliss herbal infants sleep inducing drops and dissolvable tablets. Even somersaults going around on Tik tok that are supposed to “reset the brain”. Like girlll there’s not a thing out there I haven’t tried. I used to sacrifice the little amount of sleep I could’ve gotten for monthssss to do endless research that never even worked in the end.

@Sara My daughter would not sleep through the night until she was in her own room. She was waking up every hour and then I put her in her own room and she’s been sleeping through the night (except when she’s sick she might wake up) complete life saver moving her out

@Mia I personally feel like 1 year old is a little too early to move out of the room but how old was your daughter when you moved her out?

@Sara Honestly when I put her in her own room I was not ready at alll, i was super nervous she was 8 months but I knew that it would work better for both of us. I’m a super light sleeper and I have a baby monitor so for the first couple days I put her in the hallway in a playpen and she slept through the whole night and then i put her crib in her room and she’s been sleeping through the night since. Definitely a game changer. It was strange cause she went from only waking up once or twice to waking up every hour and the whole time she did that she was just telling me that she was ready to get out of my room 😂😂 stop hearing her daddy snore lol

I have 2 baby monitors. One that I can hear her on the whole night and then a camera that works with an app on my phone so I can check on her as much as I want to and see her breathing.

@Sara hey! Sorry for the late response! So if you're wanting to phase out nursing to sleep, cut the time of nursing sessions slowly and increase the time on other sleep associations. So if it were my son, it would be more rocking and or singing, for example. You want to slowly decrease nursing session times and amounts to wean off of booby. Nursing gives you happy chemicals.... So if you quit cold turkey it's bad for boobies and also bad for your hormone levels.... You would probably get really sad

@Sara I understand you so much Sara. There isn’t an advice out there I’m sure you haven’t tried. I know this phase will eventually get better and in the meantime you’re doing your absolute best to do everything right. I know you’re tired but hopefully very soon she’ll take to something that will make it all easier. I felt the same and no one else understood but now it all feels so much better. The more she’s diving deep into her toddler years she’ll begin to adjust to a better sleep pattern.