Thoughts? Help?

So, we have done part time EC(at least trying a few times a ay) up until this past weekend. It's has really srt in that she is 10 months this Friday, and I want to be as proactive as we can with the potty. I've increased our diaper free time, and I think I have a solid knowledge of her cue times. But her timing is what I'm struggling with. Today, specifically, I missed all of her pees, BUT not without having seen her cue. She would cue, and I'd take her to potty, and she gets upset. But I sit there with her for one book read and a little more, so a few minutes. I'll set her off since she fusses more and wiggles to get off....and within a minute, she has peed on the floor. I do EC hold facing out on a regular toilet or her little potty. Our house has many levels so we don't have a tiny potty in all 3 bathrooms. I KNOW she knows what to do and has to go do it. We are so close, what else can I do? Additionally, she does get fussy at night and I do believe most of the time it's to potty. Should I start potting her at night? How would I even effectively do this without a mess all night every night? Sincerely, Mom who doe NOT want a toddler in diapers(lol, joking not joking)

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Im in the same boat here. We’re in a “potty pause” aka regression. He used to do great but now cries on the potty and then poops or pees on the floor 5 mins later. I’m struggling with poops more, oddly. But it sounds like yours is about pees. Do you do the pstt sound? I just cycle through every toy while he’s on the potty and give him another as soon as he puts one down or tries to stand. We also sing songs or tickle or play patty cake. I commit to longer than is ideal. I’ve noticed in the mornings he will pee much more frequently so I put him on every 10 mins or so/when he gets interested in a new activity/starts playing either his ‘noodle’. That’s too much work, but we’re catching all those pees. In the afternoon idk I just put him on every hour or throw the cloth diaper on. I’ve read that the potty pauses mean they are ready for more independence, ie solo, going to the potty themselves, nude time/training undies, idk what else to do bc I’m also struggling with a 9 month old

I did just post a similar question in the EC fb page. Are you on that?

@Cheyenne lol. I just posted this whole thing on that group, haha. I do make the psst sound and grunt...we've only caught a few poops. We have been naked most of the day. She does pee more frequently in the morning so I need to put her on more often. We let her roam anywhere in the house as safely as she can. Shes definitely not ready for undies, we tried naked time in the car and she peed on herself within minutes. She will crawl into our primary bathroom and stand and smack the toilet-id put her for some time and then she'd not go...immediately sits on the ground and pees. She'll turn and raise her arm at me to go potty and does the same thing. TBH, I don't have the book-do you think I should?

Ha! Perfect. In the car, you are brave! I haven’t tried that. I haven’t gotten the book either, wondering the same lol I’ve listened to podcasts but eh

Hey ladies 👋 just read your comments and first off EC with my first was tough, it felt hard and likely I put a lot of pressure on the whole thing myself and could’ve eased up. That’s said I feel ya and you’re not alone. I ended up getting the Go Diaper Free book with my audible subscription and it helped me a lot, the podcast is good too I just found the book to be laid out in a way that made sense more as the podcast is more topical and slightly less in depth. It does have a ton of the same info though. Anyways, another positive was the mighty networks group that I think has some exclusive areas for book owners and for that I used most the videos and hybrid plan. Anyways, I feel like trouble shooting if this is a potty pause is to take a solid break and kind of reset for you and your kiddo. I did that twice with my first before he was a year and then once again after he turned one and then when he mastered walking I got him out of daytime diapers. But had that happen too.

@Grace I did feel like.thenpodcast was more broad. I am a hard copy type of person plus I try to limit my screen time especially around her. When you did a reset, did that just mean putting him back in diapers or diaper free with no potty attempts?

@April for sure, I get that. That’s what the book recommended, I just did full time cloth diapers and didn’t offer the potty at all. So I felt it helped but what worked best for my first was as soon as he mastered walking was getting him into training undies, it was a much faster learning than EC had been for him. Partly might have been I wasn’t very in tune with him and that forced me to be. But yeah, definitely hang in there, I’ve noticed doing EC and just getting out of diapers has allowed my son to be more independent and happier.

@Grace thanks for your encouragement and thoughtfulness!

Whenever we have ever had issues it was because she doesn't need my help she wants control. I taught her how to mount her potty herself and legit no more misses. Currently practicing pulling undies up and down cuz she keeps grabbing underwear like she wants to wear it. My baby never signaled. I strictly used timing with her. In montessori they take kids every 45min. Her timing was anywhere between 30-55min with mornings going as often as every 23mins till she was up for at least an hour. Start teaching her how to mount her potty.

@Jade what potty does she have?

@April baby Bjorn. I also have a pottet portable potty that I sometimes set up in the house.

One piece of advice my sister gave me when she was ecing her LO. If they had misses, she would put more clothing on the kid so it would be inconvenient to be wet and would take long to change. She said it lasted 3 days and the babe went back to using the potty. If the independence from above doesn't work, then I would give this a try.

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