When did you know you were done with your partner ? How did you tell him? How did you go about things

Did you guys have an agreement before moving in who gets what if worst case scenario it doesn’t work out? If not who bought what/ what belonged to you before you moved in?

No one can tell you if you’re done or not only you know if it’s really the end of things. As for splitting stuff up, if your not married then it’s what you’ve paid for and what you can prove you’ve paid for (if things get ugly) for example, if he pays the rent and he can prove that then he would be the one who stays, if you bought the tv and the bed then you take them.

@Shanice I've been paying rent for the last 8 months and him nothing

make sure you have all of your receipts. This is what they’ll use to determine who gets what if it gets ugly

That would probably qualify you to keep the flat, do you think he would keep things amicable? How you go about ending this will probably have some sort of influence on how he reacts to it ending.

@Shanice I don't know honestly that's why I'm so scared of saying anything. Also i don't even know what to say ?? Ask him to leave ? I don't know. He's a great dad when he's here problem is he's almost never here and then him and I there's no relationship anymore basically, nothing I can see left to try

That last bit is exactly what you tell him, he’s a great dad but things between the two of you are not what they were. It can seem hard sometimes but open honest conversations with anyone in your life, are the only way forward. He may not know that’s how you feel but if you don’t tell him, then he will never know. If things changed would you stay? or has that ship just sailed now? These are all things you should think about in advance. Don’t be scared though, this is your life and you deserve to be happy. If he really loves you then he will respect your decision.

If I was in your position I would start with just saying how I’ve been feeling, that then puts the ball in his court. Dependant on his reaction and response would then determine whether I’m ending it or not.

Also is not even about stuff and flat what about the baby 🫣🫣I'm so anxious

Your baby will be fine as long they have 2 loving parents that work together to raise them. Sticking around just for your baby will show in the end. Both of you need to be in a happy and healthy place whether that’s together or apart. In my opinion kids are only affected when you can’t co-parent. Like I said, it doesn’t have to start with ‘this is over’ it can start with just a conversation and you take it from there.