Anyone in LA?
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Btw I had a miscarriage last September….. I’m so glad you’re starting to feel better
Thank you for sharing about your miscarriage. My body seems healed, i feel like myself again but still have some down days. I’ve had different feelings coming, these days im mostly angry. I know it’ll pass eventually. I think my friend ghosted me because my pain was probably too uncomfortable for her. In the past, i have been there for her when she was dealing with a breakup. I remember going to her house after work, making her dinner when she was too sad to do anything, being always available on the phone to listen to her… She was happy when i got pregnant (i had been trying for over a year so it was not a surprise) but then she started to not answer my messages or put me down in front of other friends when i wanted to talk about my pregnancy symptoms (everybody knows the first trimester is not just rainbows and roses lol). At my birthday party, she made fun of my husband when he said he didn’t want to drink alcohol while i was pregnant to support me.
Lots of little things happened like these that hurt me but were not important enough for me to really confront her. I also thought that maybe it was hard for her to see me happy because she wants children but her relationship is not really good so I kind of let it go and didn’t hold her accountable. Then i had my miscarriage at 12 weeks. She reached out the first week like many people. Didn’t make the effort to come see me but i didn’t ask, i was not very social. Months passed, she would not initiate contact or if she did it was to invite me to some social event that i didn’t feel like attending at the time. Anyway, last time i saw her i told her how difficult my grief was. Didn’t feel any empathy or compassion coming from her. She also talked me down about my career (i was facing career challenges this year) and said i should maybe think of doing something else. It’s kind of ridiculous when i think about it now, i was just in the dark and needed her to have kind words.
I have decided to stop reaching out and so she kind of faded away…
I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s the worst feeling ever. 💔 I’m from LA and went through a miscarriage in 2022.
I’m from LA but moved out to Denver in 2017… I still have close gfs out there and one is pregnant due in November and doesn’t talk to me as much (likely bc she’s very pregnant, still working and just got married tho) …that’s so sad your friend soft ghosted you! Why do you think that is? 💕