People's treatment of your second child

Hello all just wondering if anyone else has had differential treatment with their second child from family members. With my first there was lots of handmade blankets, booties and hats and my second has had nothing. This is my husbands family (I have no contact with mine), so I can't really say anything. I have attempted to knit some booties and a blanket but I'm not crafty and the booties are huge and the blanket is holey! I don't mind not having oodles of blankets but for my second growing up I don't want her to feel unwanted:( xx

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Everyone is definitely more excited and generous for the first! Definitely experienced this when I had my second unfortunately Your first born will never know what stuff they were made and given when they were tiny though xx

I think the expectation is you keep them and pass them down? I know that’s what’s happened with our my nan did make each of them their own personalised blanket when they were born but everyone else kind of didn’t bother cos they knew we’d kept stuff! My third (2nd boy) was only in handed down clothes cos we’d kept it all!

I experienced this with family and friends too; I’m not fussed about gifts, but felt a bit let down by fewer cards, texts, generally less interest, less check ins 😔 Now whenever someone has a second (or more) baby I make sure I support them with what I didn’t receive 💛

@Lisa when our friends/family have a second+ baby we alsways make sure to take a gift to the older child and make sure we talk to them/play with them about stuff they’re interested in rather than just the baby!

@Laura yes me too! My friend has just had her second baby and I’ve got her first child a present and not the baby (yet!) It’s the little things people remember 💛💛💛

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