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At 9, I knew not to do this. It’s actually embarrassing for your sister in law to even allow that. This is lack of discipline on your SIL’s side. No matter what I’d stand my ground for your baby that can’t do that yet. If your SIL doesn’t get it, personally I’d tell the child directly not to open and take what isn’t hers. There’s nothing wrong with teaching a child manners. I’d definitely stand my ground too because it’s not biased when they are stepping into your daughters and your space. Personally this makes me so mad for you. You aren’t being irrational or anything, I’m proud of you for telling your SIL your boundaries. Go mama.
Look I had an absolutely shit childhood EXPECT BIRTHDAYS every year I can remember EVERYONE was there and EVERYONE got along which is an act of divine power in this family! I was a foster care kid. At 11 years old I knew better even with no home training. I remember being about this age and christmas came around and I came bck from foster care and no one in the family knew I as going to be there so no one git me anything the adults thought it would be a good idea to give me two of the other older kids presents so I could have something to open. I opened each of them and gave them to the Cuzzo they belonged to. I told the adults that was very nice of them to do but they didn't consider the feelings of my cuzzos and summer (maybe 13 at the time) got a music jewelry box the ones with the little ballerinas in it lol I laugh because I was a Tom boy and definitely didn't want it anyway she got one and wanted it very bd and cried most the day over it and hated me not the day over it so I gave it back I told...
Them I just edited wanted to be home with my mawmaw and sister I didn't need gifts. I still feel that way today. In foster care your family and foster family tend to replace emotional bonds with material things and some kids thrive on that and really do believe that is love and some just know better. I would try and see what the SIL daughter likes and spend time with her and baby girl doing it show her what love it. She should know better doesn't mean she does and is definitely destined to live a lonely sad life if she isn't taught.
@Kaitlin that's a touching story and all but it's not my job to do those things for her. That is her mother's job to do through and through. I'm not going to continue to reward bad behavior, and what you suggested I have tried to do time and time again. No one said she's destined for a sad life, but at the end of the day being as old as she is and being warned two years in a row that I am simply not okay with that and then still continuing and taking away from my toddler isn't the move. That's toxic. It is not my job to teach this girl, guide her, or anything. Especially if it comes at the expense of my daughter's day being ruined and her presents being taken by some jealous little girl who should and does know better. Sorry.
@Rachel Marie her way of rectifying is to have my daughter open her 12 almost 13 year olds birthday gifts. That will not happen bc it'll just reinforce to her that it's okay to open birthday gifts that aren't yours. Plus I don't wanna raise my kid that way. Yk? My daughter's first two birthdays on this earth and some jealous little girl feels entitled to open her gifts? She doesn't do this at any other birthday party. So I simply don't get it and feel like she's hella taking advantage of the fact my daughter can't stand up and that I don't like to make scenes in public. Simply put, she's not welcome.til she can sit on her hands AWAY from my kids gifts.
@Amber I have told her. I told her both years bc she has a habit of throwing fits when her siblings tell her to fuck off, and then she ends up opening her gifts anyways. My oldest niece (fiances side) turned 16 a couple years back and the 11/12/13 year old RIPPED OPEN all of her gifts while we were bowling. She's pulled this shit w her younger sister. Cousins. Etc. but recently it's only happened at my daughter's birthdays and enough is enough. I'm at my wits end with it bc I have tried to intervene, warn, spend time with, bond with, etc. I'm simply over this brat ass teenager.
This makes me soooooo angry. Yeah I wouldn’t allow her to come to your child’s parties if she can’t respect yalls boundaries
Ridiculous behavior from the kid and the mom. Yeah I'd just not invite them and have a fun day celebrating your kid! Simple as that! And when they ask why they aren't invited, you can say you tried to reason with them, but clearly reasoning didn't work. Put your family first!
you have a problem with the SIL not the kid. if a kid has no one telling them no then they are going to think their behavior is acceptable. do not allow the SIL to come or bring any of her kids around unless she can be respectful. do not cut out the child. cut oug the adult that is fostering this behavior. she obviously feels she cannot punish her child because of her rough past but that just makes a horribly behaved child, asshole teenager, and then a dangerous adult. she needs to set up some boundaries with her child ASAP. and honestly tell her that lol. its for the greater good even if you end up sounding rude. someone’s gotta say something!!
I don't think her mother likes yall. That sounds like some I want to make mama proud shit to me and she's heard her mom talking crazy or sideways about you guys. "That's a cute story and all" was a little rude. I get that's your baby and this is something that has passed you clean off but my point was some people are born good people some just aren't but can be taught. I personally think you are looking at this as someone bullying your 2 year old and maybe the fist year it was but the second time she did it simply because YOU didn't like it and that came from somewhere
Keep toxic people away from my kids. Period. And if SIL wants to be toxic, then she will NOT have access to my kid. SIL clearly condones this behavior and does not see to rectify this. Toxic people can bring out the worst in us, and I don't want that around my kid or for them to see what it could bring out in me.