Avoiding visitors after birth

I’m just wondering how people approach trying to have a no visiting rule after birth, I’m booked for a planned c section and already have a 10 month old I’m worried about recovery while looking after my 10 month old but also wanting them to bond and get into a new family routine. On my first baby I had visitors from morning - night mainly in laws, and struggled with this a lot. I’m more than happy for both in laws and my parents to meet our new baby but then would like some time to settle in and bond with both babies. How would you approach this?

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I just didn’t tell anyone I was home from hospital lol

I told them my vagina hurts and I can't entertain them.

We told people we were doing an 8 week bu ble beside my mom coming to stay and help and my in laws could come a couple times after two weeks. I just didn’t care about peoples opinions as they were not the ones having a baby.

Having visitors so early on was definitely something I regret and what I'd do differently for my second (if we did have one). It would just be a "yeah so I know you did with the first, but we have learned, and grown, and we don't want it". End of story

you just tell them what you said in your last paragraph!

Tbh I'd say exactly what you said above. It's a big transition for your older child and you will all need to settle into a routine where you have time and energy for both babies. I don't have another baby yet but that's exactly what I'd tell people because it's true.

Tell them exactly what you have written here. Send them a message or email if you’re uncomfortable talking to them, just explain your worries, struggles from last time and you have decided as a family, there will be no visitors until you are ready this time. Most people would respect this and anyone who wants to challenge it, I would keep at a distance. Good luck 💕

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