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That’s totally fine! Lots of people do that :) or you could give both? x

@Emily he just seems to argue about it and says it’s not right which is really pissing me off

100% what I would do as well. Personally I would never have a different name to my child, so the only way that my child would have their father's name is if we are married. I am not growing my baby inside me for me to be the only one in the family with a different name. I also have many friends who have given the fathers name and then when it has not worked out, he is rarely seen again. Stand your ground lovely. X You could also consider going double barrelled if you don't mind but only if you are comfortable with that.

If you’re not on great terms please stick to your guns. Giving your kid a different name than your own and the father isn’t around can be a pain when going on holiday and passports not matching. You’ll need his permission in some cases. You’ll be the primary parent right? Why can’t your kid have your name. Hope it doesn’t get too difficult for you ♥️

Definitely give yours if you are in doubt or do both so then he may feel happier. I gave my lo her dads as I knew we’d get married and I’d have the same if I had doubts with my relationship I wouldn’t have, and could just change it if you do get married x

My son has both our surnames! He was fine with it and I’m SO glad we made that decision

do whatever u think it right. when i was pregnant my ex demanded my son had his last name as “he was going to be a loving, doting dad for the rest of his life no matter what happens” i split up w him at 7 weeks pregnant and it took 7 more weeks for him to say he’d never be part of his life. my sons 2 and i haven’t had any contact w his dad since 14 weeks pregnant so imagine if id gave my son that strangers name lmao

and if u change ur mind in 5 years time u can pay like £50 to change it by deedpol :)

Me and my ex double barrelled our daughters surname as we’re not together and had no desire or plans to get back together, though I did make it clear that if he did anything to really upset me during my pregnancy then she would be getting just my surname and he was totally fine with that.

@tori-leigh omg I'm going through the same thing now and it's so unfortunate that my daughter already has his name I dnt know if I can make any change to her birth certificate it's so sad 😞