Last names

I don't want to change my surname and our son has both, double-barrelled. It's completely your decision, however. One may argue that true feminism is the right to choose what you want to do. x

I think it’s quite hard to decide because on one hand I don’t want to disappoint anyone by choosing one’s name but I’d prefer not to double barrel xx

@Gracie It does seem like a tough one! x

Ah I've always known our baby will have my partner's surname 😊 I just think we will get married at some point hopefully and I don't really like my surname anyway 😂

@Louise I’m the same I mean he’s said he is gonan propose at some point and knows how he wants to do it. (I know it may be too soon but when you know you know) and my thing is i will take his surname when we get married (if😂 u never know things happen) so that makes me think our child may aswell have his x

I don’t think it’s stupid of you to give your child his Surname . Don’t listen to the outside voices, do what is right for you as a family as that what matters the most❤️ Especially if you both have traditional values x

I’m not married and my son has his surname and he is 3 years old now, pregnant with our second. Still not bloody married but again this one will have his surname. We are engaged and that happened when we were 5 months pregnant.

Thank you everyone x

So for me and my husband, we are hyphenating baby BUT with a modified version of my last name as my last name is super long (and this is also what my husband and I are changing are name too). For an example (obv not real names lol): Husband is John Smith. I'm Jane Wardianopo. Our new surname and baby's is: Ward-Smith. We did this because my last name is super long, but I didn't wanna get rid of my last name completely as it is very important to me. I also often go by the modified version anyway. So yeah :) could be a fun solution for you

@Alexandra that’s a good idea however our names just wouldn’t work like that x

My partner has decided to take my name when we get married due to many reasons so the baby will naturally take my name. I know it’s traditional for the baby and the wife to take their father’s name but it’s so different in this day and age. However if you are both traditional and believe the baby should have his name then that is your decision and no one can stop you 😌 youll know in your gut what is right xx

I have exactly the same issue! I’ve always wanted to be married before I had a kid (no real reason, just wanted to do it in that order), but I’m not, so having a bit of a think. I started out being happy with his surname on the understanding that we’d get married at some point, but now I’m contemplating putting my surname as a middle name (not double barrelling the surnames though) if we cant find a good, meaningful middle name. I just don’t want to lose my identity in all of this. I also read that you need both parents permission to change a baby’s name, so it sort of stands to logic to name the baby after me and then change both of our names when we marry, but deep down I still just think I want the baby to have his surname.

Personally, I don't think it's fair for him to be seen as being given "your" baby's last name... it's 50% his child. Traditionally yes, wives and children take on the male surname, but it should be a discussion between you both. Like some others have said, it's becoming more common to blend surnames and they can work well. I worry you're already disregarding his role as a father or as having any say by stating it's your baby.

Don’t allow outside opinions to influence your decision. The fact that you are both traditional means you believe your children should have their father’s surname. Go with your heart.