Emotions leading up to ivf
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I found a fertility psychologist and had regular sessions with her, found it helped me a lot.
@C.P. So sorry to heart it was so awful the last time. It’s so hard to find the motivation isn’t it?! Really hoping your next round is successful!
@Sharon I have been having some therapy with the clinic I’m with, but I’m not sure I’m 100% comfortable with her so maybe I will look into private!
@Katherine worth looking into, I know each psychologist is different but I really liked mine and the sessions we had were exactly what I needed, we moved to online sessions during covid
Just wanted to hop on to say there is hope! I got my little boy from first transfer from my second round. Try going into it feeling positive and hopeful, as there’s no reason why it won’t work. Sending lots of love!
@Sarah thank you! And congratulations! It’s so easy to get bogged down with it all, hoping I’ll feel more positive once the ball is rolling.
In the same boat. About to start my 2nd round after 1 failed fresh and 1 failed frozen transfer. I'm scared about the emotional and physical toll but reminding myself that the process is also beautiful and being grateful I have the means to do it again. It's daunting though. I found it helpful to think about it one step at a time, the whole process otherwise becomes really overwhelming. Best of luck and if you ever want to chat, feel free to message me
I’m in the same boat. Trying to dtay positive! My protocol has also changed and I feel a bit helpless but trying to ‘trust the system’ good luck
I hear you, ivf is such a marathon and nothing can prepare you for it. I had 3 egg collections, 2 failed transfers a chemical and a MMC and I honestly don’t know how I got through it all. A lot of gritting the teeth and just going forward, it’s amazing how we find the strength from somewhere. Just remember that it’s okay to feel low and not to enjoy the process and that will not have any impact on the outcome. IVF is one of the most stressful things to go through and you are a warrior to do this for your future family To end on a bright note I am currently 21 weeks pregnant following my 5th embryo transfer. It honestly does feel worth all the pain and heartache even though it takes being on the other side to realise that Stay strong hun and be kind to yourself xx
@Jodi that’s a great idea to take it step by step, I do have a habit of thinking way too far in the future. Hope everything goes well to you! Always here to chat too!
@Abbie-Louise it’s so hard to be positive! I hope everything goes well for you x
@A.R. Thank you for your kind words, it’s so lovely to hear that even with multiple egg collections it worked out! A lot of gritting my teeth for sure but like you said, we find the strength from somewhere! Hope everything with your pregnancy goes well 🩷
@Kate congratulations on your beautiful baby!! I definitely am going to be easier on myself this time round with eating and doing what I fancy. I restricted myself so much last time! X
@A.R. Please can I ask if you did anything specific on your 5th transfer for a positive outcome? Just going into my 4th round of IVF
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@Amelia I wish i knew for sure if there was anything that impacted it. 2 of my previous 4 transfers were PGT tested so this was a PGT tested embryo too. I had a modified natural cycle like the previous transfer. I was on folic acid, vitamin d and b complex as for previous cycles. I did change my diet in January to a more plant based diet (transfer was 19 Feb) so I haven’t cut out meat entirely but I do have a few meat free days a week and my goal was to eat at least 30 different types of plant foods each week. I have kept that up and it does make me feel really good… but if it impacted the transfer or not I’m not sure but it couldn’t have harmed it Best of luck for your 4th round I hope this is it for you xxx
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I'm feeling the same 😔 1 failed fresh, 1 failed FET and about to go through our last FET from my 1st collection. I'm finding it really difficult to feel hopeful I just dont think it'll ever work 😔 I have mega test anxiety with IVF so I've started doing random pregnancy tests to try and desensitise myself 🙄
@Kayley sorry to hear you’re feeling like that, it’s so hard to go through mentally. Keeping everything crossed that your last FET works!
I am kind in the same boat! I have just had a failed FET and my heart says to go for another round, but I am dreading exactly this! TBH the previous round (almost 3 years ago) was so dramatic that i subconsciously erased it from my memory! I do not remember anything at all! But try to keep your mind onto what you want to achieve and keep reminding yourself that it so worths it! Sending you positive vibes