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We’re probably just gonna have a family day out and do a few little presents as we also have loads of stuff from when our 1st was 1. Might have a little family barbecue if the weather is nice as that’s what we did for our almost 3yo on his 1st birthday
I want to do a little set up at home/ cake smash just for the pictures & take her out to an aquarium on a separate day bc I know that’s something she would actually enjoy. I honestly hate parties I cba for it there’s so many people that I’d rather not celebrate with. I’m considering not even having a set up bc that would make my mil invite a bunch of people who would kill the mood.
@Lisa I’m glad I’m not alone I was starting to feel like a monster, I just remember the stress of my oldest birthday we had everyone to our house we had a bout 20 people in our house and I spent more time cooking sorting food and drinks than actually celebrating with my son I don’t have any photos from that party because I was just to busy. Then there was the clean up after it I just remember being tired and looking back I missed the whole afternoon being with my son.
@Hannah I have a big age gap for mine it’s 7 years so w have a lot of stuff that’s basically new and i honestly didn’t enjoy his 1st party I was to busy sorting everything and everyone else out that I missed it all so I said till he’s 5 and he’s a actually got school friends I won’t do a party and that will be at a function room where I’m not responsible for cooking or cleaning up I did that with my oldest and it was still stressful because of his autism we had to keep leaving the room so I also have to think about him when having anything like a party for our youngest as well.
@tas I don’t get on with most of my family and there’s not really any of my husband family that bother with us and I begrudge paying out hundreds for them to come and stuff their faces and act like they care for the afternoon. It’s not like my son is going to remember any of it, he’ll have photos but would he rather have to £300+ it’s going to cost me to do a party in his isa or wasted on a day he can’t remember. I’m going to do his cake smash and splash at home as I have a photography studio so I’m going to do that a few days before he’s 1 so I have time to edit them and id it’s not raining then maybe go to the county park we like or I was even things of booking a cheap haven site for the weekend and going away as it’s £89 and we’d have some nice family time away for us all.
Me and my partner are taking our little one to the aquarium on his bday and then on the weekend my parents and a couple friends are coming over for some food and cake but nothing massive
Me and dad are just going to do presents and a fun day her nan wants to throw her a party so im letting her. She wants input on things so I know I have a veto card if needed.
@Becky I can’t do things like that as our older one has ASD and he hates it but I think I might go in the week one day as the bubs likes watching Doreys reef cam on Disney+ or the live stream of the aquariums but our local one is an hour away
My little ones birthday is on a Thursday so it’s very much an open house sort of day, pop in for an hour..there’ll be food etc, give presents whatever, but it won’t be a party. Then me and her dad will be taking her out on the Friday to the zoo for a day out. We’re not going overly mad with presents either as my daughter is the first grandchild etc so she will no doubt get spoilt rotten from both sides of the families!🤣
When he’s older we will do one, when he has some little friends and will enjoy the experience!
@Lauren my sons is on a Sunday so we can’t really do much as the older one will have school the next day anyway. Our family’s don’t bother with him or us in general so won’t have people popping round
Maybe you could do a family day out Saturday and a chilled day just your family opening presents, films and eating? Sad that no one bothers though :( if you want anyone to chat to, you can always message me 💗
@Lisa we did my oldest at 5 he definitely had a better time of it we did a big party with a bouncy castle,soft play,big inflatable bowling, giant games and ride ons it was worth waiting till he was older and he had so much fun.
@Lauren days out can be stressful as the oldest has autism and struggles a lot with going out in environments he cant cope with mainly indoors stuff is a no go so we spend alot of time outside but again this can be a pain with sensory issues so can be limiting sometime I feel like I can’t win but it’s also not fair on his brother to be stuck in the house all the time. I feel sorry for the boys more my Nan passed away last year before I knew i was pregnant she was the only one who bothered with the oldest makes it worse as my hubby’s dad lives right round the corner from us yet don’t bother with my kids yet takes his daughter and her kid on holidays and days out all the time.
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Omg such a great idea I might look for a weekend getaway too. Us parents do all the hard work we should celebrate and have fun too & honestly I understand there’s so many people who I know will attend and just talk about me behind my back so I don’t need the day filled with negative vibes
I think I'm just going to do a little party at our house! Nothing extravagant but certainly a celebration of him. Just family and any friends who want to rock up!
@tas exactly why I thought about just going away. My little ones birthday is end of September so kids are all back at school and it’s cheap lol
Not doing a party, a cute little brunch with her aunties and a cute mini family vacay for her bday. Dont think we’ll do parties till age 4/5
We won’t be doing a party or anything like that and will be asking people to send money to his bank account. We plan on taking him out for a day but as you say, he won’t know it’s any different from any other day!