Scared of naming our baby

Sending you my prayers brave mama 💗

Oh mama I’m so sorry about your losses . I lost 2 babies which one of them was at 17 weeks . It was a little boy we only named him once he was born as we didn’t know the gender . Currently 15 weeks too and I have a gut feeling my baby is a girl so we have been calling her Alba (that’s the name we had picked for a girl ) . Even my wee boy calls her that and he is always saying it’s a girl 🥺 if you are finding out the gender and you already have names picked just call the baby that x I feel like it makes me more connected to the baby 🥺 I’m still very scared of another loss too . I feel you mama . Praying for your little baby 🤍

@Helena So so sorry for your losses 🥺 may I ask what happened with the baby at 15 weeks ? Our post mortem came back with issue with the umbilical cord they said it was too long and hyper coiled which caused him to not have enough oxygen . But they said the same thing to me that it’s very very rare and it’s not going to happen again . Apart from the cord there was nothing wrong with him 🥺

@Helena oh I’m so sorry to hear that . Such a shame such a stupid infection cause that 😭 my heart breaks for you . I’m in the same boat . 2 losses and although I’m getting a little bit better care but I feel like it’s still not enough . I still had to chase them for the extra scans that they have promised . But all is well so far . Getting another scan on Tuesday I’m still scared something will go wrong but trying to be happy and stay positive . Congratulations on your rainbow baby 🩷 and I agree with you . We should be getting care like this at all times not only when you go through losses . It’s a shame cause where I’m from women get scans every 3 weeks even if they don’t have high risk pregnancy . And they get to stay in hospital for 3 days after vaginal birth and around 6 days after c section . Here in the uk it’s very rushed . They literally sent me home 24 hours after an emergency c section with my first baby and I had to come back 4 hours later as I have developed an infection

Which would have been found if I got to stay there longer and they would have done all the tests they were supposed to before sending me home 🥺