Is it just me ?

My step child Often makes up fake stories about what her mother used to do for her father . For instance if i cook, step child would say things such as, “my dad loved when my mom made that it was his favorite.” We were having cookies and milk and she said “ oh my dad love when my mom makes him cookies . He would eat them all up and my mom and i would always remind him to save some for the family . Then he said what family? And she said me and my mom.” The child is 8 and we’ve been together since she was 3 . I know when they were together the relationship was extremely toxic, that being the reason they’re no longer together . I also know the child witnessed many of the fights and arguments and to this day her mother is still doing 5 years later . However, I’m confused on how to respond to these stories other than saying that’s nice . But i get the feeling she’s craving positive experiences/ memories between her mom and dad . Because she’s seeing it here being done with me and him . Thoughts ?

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It’s hard for children for their parents to not be together. We went through similar things with my step children. Me and their father have been together since they were 3 and 4 but there were periods of time where they would question why mommy and daddy couldn’t live in the same house. . Pretty normal. At this age they don’t fully understand why mommy and daddy aren’t together. I certainly wouldn’t take it personally and I don’t think she’s trying to hurt your feelings!

@Alyssa Hi, I don’t think she’s trying to hurt my feelings. I just don’t know how to respond certain things. There were times where she would try to say things to me to make me mad lol . “Mommy and daddy kissed when he picked me up so what are you going to do about that .” But i also know it’s also her mother telling her to say somethings so i tend to ignore her or the things she’s saying .

I would just ignore the comments where she is trying to upset you such as the one about kissing, but just try your best to continue showing her what a positive relationship looks like. Since she is craving positive memories give her some to share with you guys. Maybe eventually she will stop talking about the false memories and start talking more about what you all do as a family instead.

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