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Are you living in sin with your fellow Christian? That's something that mock the character of God and is very serious. Any sex outside of the covenant of marriage is against the Lord. If you want to follow advice of Paul, get a courthouse marriage ASAP. "It's better to marry than to burn" As far as this middle ground? Can you show him that he's important to the family, by having him to dinner first? Or ask for a meeting with him to talk about this? If he's not even willing to meet the priest and reconsider, I don't think he's changing his mind. So then you can defy him and leave him out of it, or agree to honor his wishes. Personally I don't see Catholics as believers, because they rarely are. A believer has repented their sins to Jesus Christ as Lord and don't pray or "venerate" dead people. But I know that Jesus has children in lots of random places. I don't say this to be mean, but to speak the truth in love. When Jesus comes, there will be many false Christians left. Because they didn't obey and submit.

I think it’s important that you really consider his past trauma. Sexual abuse is deep and even being inside a Catholic Church could possibly trigger him. You said you’re not die hard so how important is it for you to christen your baby? Do you believe in the doctrine behind christening and do you understand what it means spiritually? Are you only doing this because it’s tradition and a “good thing” or it’s because you fully believe in christenings? You don’t have to answer but these are questions that are important to consider in order to come to a solution. I also want to say, that if you plan on growing in your relationship with God and your bf plans on doing the same then how you are living is way more important than a christening. The christening won’t really have an effect on your child’s life if you don’t plan to live according to the Bible (abstinent till marriage and living Holy before and after marriage). It’s more important that you fully live for God and raise her that way

Everyone is caught up on the boyfriend part but we fully intend to get married. So that’s not my question here and wasn’t what I needed advice on at all. None of this has been helpful, just judgement which you cannot do yourself unless you yourself are without sin. Which no human on this earth is. So pack up the “get married” blah blah blah and move along to my real question and give an actual answer to what’s being asked. My relationship status is not in question.

I believe you should respect your boyfriend's decision and submit to his leadership. There's a reason why he doesn't want to go through with the ceremony. Catholicism is a false religion. It does not teach 100% of what's in the Bible, most of the beliefs and traditions go against our Creator. I agree, repentance and surrendering to the Most High is key. Ask Him for guidance and knowledge. Allow Him into heart and He will show you the truth.

@Ericka thank you for answering. I have been praying for discernment and understanding. So we will see as the weeks go by what is revealed. Thank you.

I did want to answer back and say that I’m in no way condemning you and I did try to answer your question and offered advice concerning that but you probably missed it because of how I ended my comment. The Bible actually does tell us that Christians can judge and correct other Christian’s righteously. That being said, I said what I said in love and only mentioned your relationship because as you continue to grow in the word you will see that when it comes to christening bs dedicating your child to God, how you live and raise your child is what truly matters. As another sister mentioned, christenings and Catholicism don’t necessary teach what’s biblical hence why I commented the way I did. Either way, I never meant to condemn you but if you cannot receive my comment, that’s okay too.