One and Done

I have wondered this myself. The newborn stage is alot and took my husband and I by surprise. And we think it would be nice to give our child undivided attention and don’t have to worry about buying a car, paying for college or juggle multiple sports and extra curriculars for multiple kids. But at the same time, I worry about him not having a sibling after my husband and I pass on. But my son has two boy cousins who are 3 and 4 months apart from him who could be like brothers to him. I totally understand where you are coming from and want to follow your post to see what others say!

I have always wanted just one because it took two round of Ivf to get him. Fast forward we had a mc in December and the hope of having another was at the forefront of our minds. So now we are trying for a second without much success. I think the stigma behind having an only child is false they grow up happy and healthy and regardless if you have more you will spoil them.

We wanted to but financially and medically it wasn't advisable. He seems happy and has friends and cousins

I am one and done. My daughter gets so much my attention and time. She speaks much better than most kids of her age, she develops well, she is a happy child. The dark side: she is not good at communicating. Even if she has preschool 3days a week it is not enough for her to develop good social skills. It seems like she has no motivation for that - she has lots of our time and attention and no need to compete with siblings for attention or seeking attention from other children and adults. She is 3yo. I hope she will find her joy in playing with other kids later. For now I see that being the only one child for her is very beneficial for intelligence and self assurance.

I'm an only child and it sucks. In stuck taking care of My mom all alone now. The burden is very heavy.

I wish I have more siblings to be honestly but it’s quite nice having a sister that I’m relatively close to especially when it comes to things like looking after elderly parents and having a built in best friend

I’m one and done. No guilt, no regret. I’d feel more guilty having another and struggling financially or mentally and not being able to be the mum I am currently. She’s very sociable, I take her to a different group almost every day, and I’m lucky enough to be a SAHM with her. We’ve got close by friends with babies of similar ages. I’m not worried, and when she gets to the age when she starts asking, I’ll tell her the truth which is that our family felt complete when we had her, and we love our family of 3 just the way it is.