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So I wanted to get opinions from people on a recent event that happened My dad mentioned selling his car so I said please can I buy it when you sell it he said ill let you know I don't know if I am yet then again I say to him how much would you like for your car dad he goes £2000 I said okay well I have that I can buy it when you sell it he said I'm not sure what I'm doing yet then my part er said the same please let us buy your car when and if you sell it as ours is falling apart and w can't afford a new one as there is no point buying another old second hand car from a stranger at least we know you've looked after yours. That was Christmas time. Then couple of weeks ago my partner heard my dad on phone speaking to a garage about a new car he had seen, perfect we thought finally we can have a better car. Said to my dad yayyy you are getting new car, he goes no I'm still not sure, then he says he's brought the new one and traded in his old one 🤔😮‍💨😶🥺😣🙀 I said dad I asked you for it you now our struggles and you have sold it to a stranger for £1500 when I offered you two. Why? Then he dismisses my feelings my anger my upset tries to turn it on me saying stop being silly there are plenty of cars out there. Then I was upset and mad for a few days with him still am honestly and soon as I show these emotions which he's caused he can't deal with it and then my mum sticks up for him saying I need to grow up. He then says well your partner can't drive it anyway he's automatic I said no but I can and I personally asked, you don't do this to family it's not nice.

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Everyone I've spoken to about it face to face said that's awful not nice of him should be helping his daughter and family what a horrible narsassistic man and I'm thinking yeah why am I still talking to this jerk

Yeah I’d be really upset about that too tbh. Especially given the fact you offered more in probably a worse financial situation than the person he traded it for 🙃

He traded it in part exchange for a new car so he saved some money and got a new car which he probably needed. He could also be trying to teach you and partner financial independence as well as life experience of searching for used cars in his own way. Personally, I would give my child in the future the car for free if it was safe to give in its condition but not let them expect to receive free things. Partner should be looking after the daughter once that responsibility has transferred over from the father. Just trying to provide two sides to this and without knowing any proper context and going off this post alone.

Do you live with your parents? The only thing I can think is that either your father wants you to have some financial independence or he was concerned that he wouldn’t get the £2000 off you so part ex was a safer option financially.

Perhaps there was something a bit wrong with it and he didn’t want to sell it to you to protect you and your family and to also save you complaining to him about it in the future. This is the reason most people don’t sell stuff to friends and family as it causes more issues down the line when things go wrong. Also I like to adopt the thought process that no-one is ill intentioned towards you. They have a reason for why they do things but it might not align with your expectations! Here’s to you find an even better car that is cheaper than £2k! Xx

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