There has been two mothers days since I’ve been a mum
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I didn't get anything on my first mothers day last year. Not even a card, or a couple flowers PICKED from the garden. Nothing. He said he'll make it up to me and get me something which he never did. His first father's day I had him spoiled because I had his presents in advance, bunch of father son outfits mugs personalised card that played a sentimental video of him with our son the day he was born ... and he loved it! Then this year, I got zip nothing again. So this year, he's not getting anything for father's day. If he can go low, TWICE, even after me celebrating his first father's day with gifts etc, I ain't doing it again. A card only costs 2 euro. If he didn't have a chance, or the lousy pittance it would cost for one, a piece of paper and a pen, homemade card?? Nope. He goes low, I go lower🤷♀️
I agree with Ann, I would speak to him if it's something that means a lot to you. I don't get my husband anything for Father's Day because I'm not his child and it's not something that's important to either of us. It sounds like your partner is the same and might need reminding that it means a lot to you and let him know exactly what you would appreciate. If he won't compromise on celebrating it then I'd make your own plans for the next mother's day and have a day to yourself
I am getting something small for my husband for Father’s Day, but if Mother’s Day ends up being a flop, I probably won’t bother in the future. He said it should come from the child, but I also see it as a chance to thank each other for what we do. I’m going to try not to take it personally and realise we just have different views on these things. Deep down though, it does feel like I’m just more thoughtful than him (and maybe lots of mums are more thoughtful than their partners?) ❤️
Some people just aren’t that into celebrating things like this or think you celebrate them once the kids are old enough to choose something for you. By the sounds of it your partner might be one of these people? Maybe just have a chat with him about how he would like to celebrate Father’s Day. There is no point putting effort in if he’s not that into celebrating it anyway.