Terms and conditions.
My bd wants to be involved in my child’s life but I want to give him terms and conditions that he must follow to actively be in her life. (Back story, I’ve been doing it myself for the past 5 months and really don’t need him but since he wants to be involved I feel like there should be rules and if he breaks them or can’t follow them he can leave us alone). So what I’m asking is for are some suggestions for any other rules I could include in my list as I feel like I may be missing some and for my other mums that co-parent what are some rules you put in place that help.
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A big one for me is if my bd wants to take our kid to his house or parents house, he needs to provide everything that baby needs while they're with them. Diapers, wipes, food, sippy cups/bottles, safe place to sleep (not in bed with him or on a couch), preferably he gets his own carseat and stroller, also toys and books and everything because he's a parent too and I shouldn't need to provide everything.
@Bethany this one is really good
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So a common one is wanting to meet each others boyfriend or girlfriend before introducing them to your child, this can be hard when you have your child 24/7 but it’s a normal ask for a lot of coparents. I personally only allow visitation supervised and when sober, we’re supposed to agree on a schedule before as showing up out of the blue or not showing up at all can be an issue, I recently asked to have 1 night a week we do a family dinner, he’s required to show up to every event she might have and major holiday. I can’t think of anything else rn but I simply ask for consistency and to be dependable