Another child?

me, i only want one child. one & done the thought of me even thinking of having two scares me😭

I am completely with you. Always wanted more than one, still do but the thought of going through it all again terrifies me lol its been and still is so hard! I think my mind changes depending on what kind of day we having 😂 I think I'm hoping once he's in school it will be a little easier and maybe the time will feel right then so I'm not a definite no or a definite yes

I feel the same. My daughter is two and I see other mums with little ones of the same age (or even younger) go on to have a second and here I am struggling most days with just one - the terrible twos are kicking my @ss! I always thought I'd have two and I'd love my daughter to have s sibling but I do worry it would push me over the edge in terms of mental health and I justfobr understand how people cope with the day-to-day logistics of two, with their different schedules and needs. X

I am honestly the same, I have 2 siblings and we are so close I feel super guilty to not give my daughter a sibling. We had a bit of a marathon getting her as we had two losses before, I struggled and hated being pregnant. I work full time as a nurse doing 12hour shifts and my husband is self employed. But super busy and childcare is an issue with just one. We have to rely heavily on my mother in law who has also just got a new job only Wednesdays so have to fit around that too. If we did I would have to go part time and probably Monday to Friday which is not the nursing I want to do. But I still have guilt plus I’m 39 so not got long left either. Plus the cost as well we would need a bigger house so more money 🤦🏻‍♀️ it’s so hard x

i definitely get baby fever sometimes and want another so my son will have someone to play with but my pregnancy experience was horrifying and postpartum was not great 😭

I feel this so close to my heart! On one hand I do feel like my son needs a sibling so he isn’t all alone when me and his father aren’t here any more but that also doesn’t ensure their sibling will get on well. & yeah the whole being pregnant and giving birth ( I had 4 days of labour and an unplanned c section) basically 2 years of sleep deprivation, completely changing your self image and not to mention almost every other aspect of your life… isn’t really my cup of tea Although having said that I feel my son has completely changed my life for the better and because I would almost do anything for him … maybe when he is 5 or so On the side of money, I have some very close family friends who have really large families ( 8 siblings) and they lived off of a similar wage to my family and everything just becomes less about materialism and everything is more about connection rather than the things that you have and I think that is pretty beautiful x

Having a second was always our plan but I still had all the conflicting feelings about it! Whilst it can also be chaotic, exhausting and really hard work, it’s also just the most beautiful thing and I have zero regrets. My ongoing dilemma is whether or not to have a third!