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We asked my cousin and her partner as both me and my husband don’t have siblings. Did the same thing, asked casually over coffee and told them to take a few weeks to think about it and let us know.
@Claire thank you! Lovely story and glad they said yes. Did you put this in a will? Did you also specify who you definitely Didn’t want looking after your kids? Did you make any financial provisions to support them in caring for your children?
@Ruth same questions as for Claire xx
We’ve specifically named them in our wills. In the event of both our deaths the girls new guardians would be XYZ. Haven’t specifically named anyone we don’t want to have them as having names guardians should be enough, but if you have very strong feelings I would check with a solicitor about what wording to use. We’ve also written in that the value of our estate would be split between the two children and an amount would be given to their guardians each year to pay for their upkeep, with any remaining being given to the girls when they turn 18.
@Ruth that’s perfect, thank you for Detailing that - appreciate it. Hopefully it’ll be a totally unused precaution!
@Ally i have put it in a will. I did tell them who i didnt want bring up my kids and thats their dad as he hasnt been in their lives for 8 years, they wouldnt know who he was really. But i didnt put it in my will about who i dont want. When the kids were older i also spoke to them about it and said if anything happens to me they would live with their grandparents and their aunt and uncle would help bring them up. In relation to finances i have an insurance policy. Hope that helps and sorry for the delay in getting back to you x
@Claire thanks so much Claire. That all sounds very sensible. I’m Considering life insurance too, something that slipped our minds when buying a place. Hopefully there will be no reason for this to ever come into play x
I did this with my older 2, their dad wasnt bothered about it. I asked my parents and my brother and his now wife. I did it over a cuppa and cake and just asked them the question directly. If they would help raise the kids with my parents. They all said yes without hesitation