Am I just being ungrateful?

Husband brought me an electric toothbrush for my birthday. Which would have been a great gift for someone that actually expressed they want one. Which I have done the OPPOSITE of. He has an electric toothbrush, and I HATE them which BTW I’ve told him this many times. He’s told me before that he would get me one and I said NO because I hate them and I’m never going to use it, I prefer using manual toothbrushes. I even make fun of him that he has to charge his toothbrush and say it’s first world problems when he can’t find the charger. It’s like he has zero listening skills?? Why would he buy me that if I’ve told him how much I hate them??? I just don’t understand. I’m seriously baffled. So of course I can’t hide my emotions and I told him this and now he’s PISSED and saying I’m never getting you anything and left the room and sleeping in another room. I spoke to him before about being thoughtful with presents. He just doesn’t get it. He also brought me a mug that said mummy and about being a mother, and said it’s from our child, and brought me a necklace with our child’s name with a little birthstone on it (which I have to say he did listen to this because I kept saying I want a necklace with our child’s birthstone but I didn’t mean one with the name on it, and the birthstone is so little it’s on the dot of the i) I loved these btw but I feel like those gifts would be more suited for Mother’s Day and not a birthday present because my birthday is celebrating ME and not celebrating me being a mother??!! I didn’t even mention this part to him because he got offended and started raising his voice and telling me to shut the fuck up. I feel like I can never ever communicate anything with him because every single time I do it leads to him getting explosive and then shouting and swearing at me all in front of our young child btw. He doesn’t know how to communicate at all. When I say this he says that’s all you do just point stuff out about me. Can’t even tell him to communicate better. That’s a whole other issue though. It’s like speaking to a child. For Mother’s Day last year he brought me a where’s Wally personalised book of me which was quite cool but again I expressed I would like something personalised relating to being a mother for Mother’s Day. He took it as getting something personalised. I didn’t say anything about that gift because I did like it, even though I didn’t really want that for Mother’s Day. Ugh I just find it annoying because I get him such thoughtful gifts and make the effort.