I am in need of some advice!!!

I would go with what you want/a more neutral name that his dads name, especially if you don’t want it, and are feeling pressured to.

just because he is the dad doesn’t mean he deserves your son to be named after him i’m in the same boat with my baby daddy but he is just that a baby daddy yeah he is my boyfriend and i love him but he has no serious commitment to me being we aren’t married so don’t feel obligated to do so 🤷🏻‍♀️

Wondering if you are saying to name him with father's last name or baby is going to be a JR.....? I would say, Heck no to being a JR but maybe both last names might be something you could consider. Do you get along with his family or close to anyone else? If you don't really think he'll truly be there for your son, I would just stick to what you were going to do. Maybe he should just be happy he is listed as the father on birth certificate.... if you were going to do that.

thank you all so much!! i think ill be putting both of our last names on there because i still want him to feel included but i also dont want him to feel left out even tho yes i do feel that even with him going to the army, he isnt gonna be there as much in him and nayelli's life l… buh my daughter has his last name and im starting to regret that honestly!

@Cambria my baby will have both of our last names 🩷 so it’s not uncommon! Mine is because my husband is Mexican and apparently that’s a thing they do. But I don’t think it will be a big deal if he has both of them !

@Madison thank you for the advice, definitely going to take that into consideration

Ye if not you can see it y'all can arrange it to be your son's middle name instead

Because I had to deal with the same thing not long ago

@Ashlyn ill probably just put both of our last names cause the babies name is Navari Antonio James and it just flows so well.. i was going to add Craig but i didnt feel that it went well with the rest if the name

Just a heads up if you put both last names the systems gonna go for the last name it ends with instead of both for his future record because the state only uses the last name so both of em won't count because my family has two last names and the state only uses the one my name ends with

So try to put his last name before yours incase future situation your last name will be the one the state uses for him they'll see the other as a middle because some people in my family got in trouble for using the name before because the last name is the last word in your name so the state uses that just a heads up

@Ashlyn this might just be state dependent ? I have both of my last names registered as my last name and so does my husband. All of my mail says both last names. I’m also military and both names are on my CAC as well

I don't know then because I have two last names but if I go to court they only use 1