Advice please! Partner wants to name baby boy after his father (still alive) but the name really isn’t sticking with me

Struggling to agree on a baby boy name ( we don’t know if we are having a girl or a boy). I feel so bad as for years my husband has talked about naming a baby boy after his dad (still living), and previously I agreed and liked the idea of. However since being pregnant I have changed my mind and can’t seem to get onboard with the name. I eventually told him that I was unsure about using this name, but he brings it up often as his favourite name. We ended up having a big row (mainly fuelled my my emotions ) about boy names as due date is close and i feel unprepared with a narrowed down list of boy names. I have been feeling very stressed and upset that we have not yet come to an agreement on any name/s for a baby boy. He dislikes my top 2 boy names and I dislike his 2 (one of these being his Dads name). He has since said can rule out the name as I was so upset during the argument, but I feel so bad/very guilty, as I know it means a lot to him. I am happy to use the name as a middle name but he has now said he doesn’t want to do that as it feels “second best” I still have the name on the list in case I change my mind when baby is born (and if it is a boy), but I am so unsure about it (but then, none of the boy names sticking with me right now). It is causing me a lot of anxiety Advice please! Although I am so unsure of the name, and cannot really picture baby boy being named this, would you go with the name as it means so much to husband?

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Personally I really don’t like naming a child after someone. (specifically first name) They’re their own person and need their own name. I’d be all for using it as a middle name though, and don’t see that as second best. If you don’t like each other’s top 2 then scrap all of them and look for one you both like. We also had a surprise and were 100% sure on a girls name but so stuck for a boy. We ended up having a boy! It was still difficult to pick when he was born (we had a few names but not 100% sure on any of them) but he’s 3 weeks now and the name feels right

Imo definitely don't name your child something you don't like. You're going to be saying it like a million times every day. Sorry but you literally made the baby - your choice!! I think offering for it to be middle name is a huge kindness and not second best. For my baby, we went with a name we both agreed on for first name and then a name that meant something (named after my cousin) for the middle name. All of my family use the middle name for this kind of sentimental reason so def not second best. Hope you find one you both agree on, good luck! Xx

My son has my dads name as a middle name I felt it wasn’t right for us not to have a choice in the first name it’s not second best for the name my partner had a girl family member who passed that he wanted to use so with having a girl this time were using that as a middle name I find it’s a nice thing as a memeoru especially if the person isn’t here anymore But don’t name your child a name you don’t like it’s your both baby you’ve got to agree on the same

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