Sterilisation
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@Sarah that’s my problem, I’m having a breakdown nearly every day. My daughters needs are extremely hard to work around (bless the school and therapists as they’re helping me but I’m just not as patient as I thought) and I have nearly 1 year old twins that need me soon as I so much as breathe exercise. It’s like they just know when I take the time to myself. As for exhausting all options, even if I wanted more kids in the future it wouldn’t be with my partner. They’ve started hormone therapy so in a year or 2 will be infertile as such but it’s always a possibility. Twins run strongly in my family too so I think I’ve always been scared of having twins again, mentally I’d be a wreck. I want to try other contraceptive options I haven’t tried yet, but worry about weight gain etc as I already worry about that. I’m going to see what I can do with my gp tomorrow but think I just want the stress and exhaustion to stop 🥲
I’d be a hypocrite if I pretended that I don’t understand what you’re going through. It is very tough and to have twins so young must be double the stress. Honestly we can only take one day at a time. I think most of these contraceptives just mess up with our emotions and weight. It would be good to try the copper contraception… but I heard that it’s not always successful 🥲 personally I wouldn’t risk it…
I know it's probably not going to make you feel better but my sister is only a couple years older and struggles with really bad endometriosis, has 2 kids already and needs another surgery to help with it and they still won't sterilise her. I appreciate you've said your partner has started hormone therapy but might be worth talking to them about a vasectomy in the mean time because they're so much easier than getting sterilised unfortunately :(
I would advise that you exhaust every alternatives before making such a decision. You never know what life looks like for you in a few years time. So don’t make such a permanent decision based on your circumstances now. It should be done when you have thoroughly thought about it with a clear mind. Give sex a break and put your mental health in order. Perhaps you could start exercising at home to improve your self-esteem regarding your weight. There are plenty of materials available on YouTube. You could set an alarm every day to take pill. I am 24 years old with two kids and literally having a break down all the time but one day all our hard work and efforts are gonna pay off. When they are grown we will have our time back again.