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@Alexis I’ve looked into some, there isn’t really too much help.
What state are you in. I can possibly help you look for resources
What state are you in? Have you looked into section 8 housing or whatever they call it where you live? WIC, SNAP (food stamps) both of these I believe have resources that help you with finding a job. Apply for Medicaid and if you qualify, you can at least have medical insurance. You should also be able to contact your department of social services in your area and they can give you information and resources too. I understand your position, but like Alexis said, make sure you exhaust all of your options BEFORE you make a decision. Last thing you want to do is decide to do something and then want to change your mind and can’t.
As much as I agree you need to be 100% certain it's what you want I feel like you'll never be 100% could you look at possibly an open adoption so she could still contact you when she's grown up/ receive updates about her? I get there's benefits and things in place but as you've said you want her to have the best life and I imagine it'll be extremely difficult and from stories I've seen on here even pregnant you don't get the best help from the government over there. The most important part is you're not a shitty person for thinking about it. You're thinking about it for her not cause you can't be bothered, accidents happen people get pregnant unintentionally all the time that doesn't mean anything about the kind of person you are because you're not ready right now one day you might be ready for a baby but keeping her when you're already so stressed out and struggling could lead to resentment towards her too which wouldn't be good for either of you. Proud of you for asking I know that must be so hard
I'm sorry I don't have any better advice but just take it easy on yourself 🫶🏻
If this is 100% what you want looking for a family to adopt rather then putting baby into the system would be best because the system can be messed up a lot and if you find a family you’ll feel better knowing they’re in a loving home
If you’re in Ohio I can help you. Please Just hmu !🫶🏽
I just want to provide some encouragement- I was adopted into a wonderful home (closed adoption) as my birth mom was 15 when she got pregnant- and I grew up and have a lovely life and family💕 if you do decide giving baby up is best for him or her, I am sure he or she will have a lovely home and life! Like the others said- there are lots of resources to look into first but just wanted to hopefully ease your mind a bit if you do decide to go through with adoption! Sending love ❤️
Before looking to adoption if you really want your child you should exhaust all options. Look for homes for single moms and pregnant women, they will help you with a place to live and also may be able to get you a job.