How to explain why they’re the only child
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I have 2 but I planned on just having 1 to be honest (although I'm very happy) My husband and I had discussed that we would tell him that we loved him so much we wanted to focus on him and make sure he got the attention we thought he needed as a child. With 2.... We have decided to tell them that we love them both so much we decided we have extra love and attention to share so we had another baby
I’m a single child and suffered from not having any siblings so much but I never lived with my dad and I guess I was kind of an accident even though my mum always wanted to have kids 🙂 I’m totally ok with the fact that she couldn’t have another child even though I so badly wanted a sibling 😊
I’m one and done and LG is nearly 1. I haven’t actually thought about this so finding it interesting to see what others say! My gut reaction is to say something like we were so happy as a family of 3 and loved having so much fun together we didn’t want to change anything. Definitely going to ask my husband this question later and see what he thinks!
I think it depends on their age. If the kid is little a simple: we loved you so much and we're so happy as a family of 3 that we decided it was the perfect number for us. If your kid is older then they may want a more "real" answer. I had an older sister, but I always wanted a younger sibling. When I asked my mom as a kid she said the two of us made the family perfect and they wanted to keep it that way. When I was a teenager the conversation came up again and she told me that they actually had a really hard time getting pregnant with me, and had given up on a second child for more than a year when I popped on the scene. She also told me she got pregnant again after I was born and lost that pregnancy. By this time we knew she had endometriosis and had had a hysterectomy which a big part of why we were talking about it. Essentially she tailored the parts I was able to understand for the age I was at the time.
I am my mother's only child. When I asked her why when I was a kid she would always tell me that I was enough for her. I fulfilled everything she wanted/desired about having a child, so she didn't need to keep going. And this was true for her. As an adult she's told me she considered having another child to give me a sibling, but it really wasn't what she wanted.
Well right now we're in the debate of if and when for another one. We're 36 so I don't have much time but he wants to wait longer if we do. However, I have 4 siblings and only 1 has 1 child. 2 have 2 and 1 has 3. My sister is divorced now and because of some reproductive problems she's had over the years, likely wouldn't have been able to carry another anyway. My nephew is 15 and has always asked for a sibling. It breaks my heart for him. However, my situation is a bit different. I'll have to explain to my son that he has a brother 12 years older than him but that he will likely never meet because of the mother. So, for all intents and purposes, my son is an only child. I don't know what I would says if he asked (if we don't have another). I guess it would depend on how he asked and what kind of answer he was looking for. But if right now we decided no, I would say that his dad and I found each other later in life. And that when we had him we knew we would pour everything we have into him.. 1/2
2/2 so that we could make sure we raised a good boy to be a great man. To give him all of our love and attention. And that because we had him a bit later in life, we felt it was just not the right choice for us to have another. I'm trying to get him to agree to another sooner than he wants. Being an older mom I think about my son being alone in the world when we die. And not having anyone to go through that with because no one can except a sibling.
My daughter was an only for 9yrs and never asked why 🤷♀️ she didn't ask for a sibling at like 8 when her friends mom had a baby but I told her we were one and done hahahaha boy was I wrong a year later lol
I think just saying that having your child was enough. Later on, I can explain that there were many health risks since my husband has CF and I'm a CF-carrier.
I'm a single mum so it wouldn't be feasible to have two on my own. I'll tell my son when he's old enough that he was all I needed in life and I'll do all I can to be all he needs. And he has his big cousin and will make so many friends but when he gets home from all his shenanigans. Me and him can have the best time together watching films and going on day trips that if I had another baby, we maybe couldn't manage :)