Is my daughter really being ungrateful?

So my husband says that are 19-year-old daughter is being ungrateful when she says she doesn't want to have what we're making for dinner and she would prefer to just order something off of doordash or GrubHub. Keep in mind she lives in our house but she does have a job amd money of her own. And she did tell us before we cooked the food. But hubby still thinks she is ungrateful because when we go grocery shopping we make sure to get enough to include her with every meal. I think it is a non-issue because she told us before we cooked the food. And who care... If we have leftovers for lunch the next day the better for us. I need input because he is being unreasonable about it and now is angry at me for defending her right to make this choice.

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I think she’s at the age where it’s hard to tell, like my daughter is 5, she can’t order grub hub when she doesn’t like what I make but I do switch it to something she’ll eat. Being 19 and living at home is weird because you’ve spent 19 years taking care of her, of course you care if she eats. I think his concern is only necessary if he’s worried about her wasting money on fast food, but I also think she’s adult enough now, she communicated the best she could and that’s something your husband has to adjust to

Jade, I agree with you. Unfortunately we had to start a new low sodium diet in our household because of my husband's health issues since he just got out of the hospital July 3rd and due to this we don't buy very many things that contain a lot of sodium and limits what we can make for dinner. My kids including the 19 y/o have been very supportive this whole time. My 15 y/o eats what we make with no complaints but doesn't have much choice since no money of his own. But my 19 y/o being she has a job and money and is an adult had that choice and my husband needs to chill out and just respect her choice especially because she has eaten what we serve without complaint 95% of the time.

I think it’s because she’s still living at home and maybe he feels she’s wasting money that she could be saving up to move out one day and it’s kind of taking advantage of no adult bills and maybe he wants her to be more responsible because if she was on her on she would think about it before she buys things. Also, why does she not get groceries that she likes when you guys go shopping , honestly DoorDash, etc is way more expensive than going grocery shopping or even going to the actual restaurant in person which would be more fresh.

I hope he isn’t envious. It’s like someone being lactose telling you you can’t have ice cream, that’s unfair. Especially if she isn’t overweight